Time in: guiding children’s behaviour
time; out; guiding; children's; behaviour;
Using a 'time in' approach means staying with your child when they have ‘big’ feelings and are having trouble managing their behaviour. It does not mean giving in to what they want or rewarding the behaviour you don’t want. It is about staying connected with your child and letting them know you understand how they feel.
'Time out' does not help a child learn how to manage strong feelings and out-of-control behaviour. It assumes a child can work out what you want on their own, or that they already know the right way to do things, and young children cannot do this.
'Time in' creates the best situation for a child to gradually learn that strong feelings are OK and they can be managed. It is also a chance, once the emotional storm has passed, to talk about what happened and how to deal with things next time.
To find out more
Have a look at Parent Easy Guide Time in: guiding children’s behaviour written for Parenting SA - A partnership between the Department for Education and the Women’s and Children’s Health Network South Australia.
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